When you become a parent for the first time, you’re overwhelmed with the joy and excitement of becoming a parent. You’re also overwhelmed with a lack of sleep and a curious surplus of insensitive comments that roll off the tongues of family, friends and even strangers. Here are the worst things to ever say to a new parent.
1. “Geez, you look tired.”
All new parents want is even the teensiest bit of sleep. Telling them they look tired isn’t going to help anyone. In fact, if you think a new parent looks so tired, why not offer to watch the baby so they can sleep for an hour instead of making an insensitive comment?
2. “So, when are you going to have another baby?”
When you’ve just birthed a tiny human out of your body, the last thing you want to think about is going through it again, even if you plan on having more children some day. It’s too soon. Plus, there are other people that work really hard to have just one child. Many women can still look pregnant several months after having a baby so reminding them that they still look pregnant isn’t the best of ideas.
3. “My baby never…”
When you compare your baby to a new mom’s baby, it’s just plain rude. Saying things like “Well, when Grayson was a baby, he never cried and he slept all night long,” isn’t very helpful. If you have some suggestions that might be useful, that’s different. For example saying, “We had trouble getting Grayson to sleep at first and then found that white noise solved our problem,” is a much better way to go about it.
4. “Is it a boy or a girl?”
Out shopping with your new baby, strangers will likely come up to look at the baby. And while most will be polite, others will ask you what gender your child is when you’ve got your baby girl decked out in a frilly dress. A better way to show interest without offending is to tell the parents the baby is cute or ask about the baby’s name.
5. “You’ll spoil that baby if you hold him too much.”
It is impossible to spoil a baby by holding it. Babies need that connection from human touch in order to develop a sense of security. There is no such thing as too much love.
6. “Breastfeeding is so disgusting.”
Breastfeeding is very natural. What do you think babies ate in the times before formula was ever developed? It’s your choice if you want to breastfeed or not but if it bothers you that someone is feeding their baby naturally, then look away.
Is there something annoying someone said to you when you were a new parent? Let us know!